On a journey that is uniquely ours, we all carry our own portions of things and situations that we find hard to wrap our head (and heart) around.
When reality attempts to show us the way things are, we default to paint a picture of how we want things to be.
It is but natural to resist accepting what may be so obvious, because that’s what brings us a sense of control;
And we all like to feel being in control, because it is that very feeling that we’re after — not the thing/situation itself (not necessarily anyway).
As each day breaks, we all find ourselves rising up to it, doing things that we can label as productive enough to get past until the next day breaks.
The one thing that unites us uniquely different humans is our common need to do things that help us have better lives, than the kind we would have if we didn’t do those things;
While we may achieve those things in different ways, in varying capacities — it is something we all do;
Our tracks could be astronomically different, but we all work, at and towards it — in our own…
When you choose to purposefully put an end to a version of yourself that you no longer want to nurture, you also choose to redirect your energy towards nurturing a version that is unknown to you.
When you choose to experience the death of an older self, you simultaneously choose to experience the beginning of life for a newer you.
When you think you should be mourning the loss of who you used to be, is also when you need to celebrate the gain of who you seek to become.
Here’s the thing though;
Your old version doesn’t just die…
We can stand to learn a lot about ourselves by going through a process of building habits.
Our habits are the bridges connecting how far we have come, and how far we need (and choose) to go.
Sometimes, building habits doesn’t come easy to us, no matter how rewarding the end could possibly be;
And sometimes, it is not about the task itself that does not feel easy;
It is convincing our minds that feels like the toughest battle of all;
But just because a battle is tough, doesn’t mean we can’t work to win it.
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We all purpose to add value to the different kinds of relationships we grow into, as we go along life.
We all try our very best to add meaning to, and derive meaning from, the relationships we are a part of.
However, in the process of trying to be our most helpful versions to those we love and care for, it is possible (albeit unintentionally) for us to lose clarity on what is required of us;
Being our most helpful version to those we love and care for (or anyone in general) should be rooted in what kind of help…
We all know what it is like to be consumed by our darkness.
We experience the weight of fears that we so delicately build, and the more we nurture them, the more we allow it to continue crushing us with its overpowering weight.
While there could be unique and complex variables to each of our situation that contributes to the specific fears we hold, the responsibility to break free from them is solely ours.
We may think that we’re better off by locking them away in the attics of our souls, but that’s not the purpose our fears are meant…
No matter how much we crave choices, having them also puts us through difficult moments, especially when we know that we must act on one among all.
The opportunity cost that is linked to each of our choices, has a subtle (yet powerful) way of haunting us.
While being at the crossroads that life inevitably offers us, we take on the responsibility for our choices;
And that means that the more we think about the impact the consequences of making such choices might have on us, the more we find ourselves spiraling in a dilemma.
However, while we may often…
To thrive in a world that is constantly exposing everyone to a whirlpool of variables, can be just as complicated as simple a process, depending on how we choose to view those variables (and what we choose to do with them).
It seems like a very unrealistic goal in these times, to have everything figured out or sorted, at any given moment;
But it is quite possible to have the tools to continually work at figuring things out;
And one such tool, undeniably is:
While this tool can be built upon and cultivated at any age during a…
At any given moment, in any given context, we may have some information at our disposal to work with, but how often do we consciously pay attention to its missing counterparts?
We naturally come to think of such information as all that we need, to make meaning out of a situation, while completely ignoring the possibility of information that we don’t have;
Information that could help us see things in a different light;
Information that could show us why our natural instinct to be hung up on “our version of the truth” might just be wrong.
This is not about…
We all go through situations when coming to a conclusion feels so far-fetched that all we end up with, is being consumed by our own endless spiral of thoughts.
We are often so stuck upon the idea of figuring it all out before taking an action, that we may even end up not taking any action at all.
When we are faced with decisions to make, we are also faced with a test of our own sense of accountability;
And that is something which often carries a weight we may not be prepared to bear at that very moment;