There Is No Right Or Wrong Way to Feel Anything
You owe the truth to yourself.
As quick as we are, in feeling a diverse set of emotions, we are just as quick to judge them as well.
We don’t take too long to arrive at musings like:
“I am feeling too much.” Or, “This is not the right way to feel about this (thing, person, place, situation).”
We don’t find it hard to question either;
“Am I not feeling as much as I should be?” Or, “Is this the wrong way to feel about this (thing, person, place, situation)?”
While we go about engaging in thoughts that make us question our process of feeling, it is far too easily that we get in our way of being;
Because we resist what makes its way naturally to us;
And instead, we try to fight to mold it into something we are not meant to feel anyway.
However, until we acknowledge the truth for what it is, we will not be able to acknowledge our feelings for what they are either — and it is key to know why we must acknowledge them in first place.
Each of us are the products of our unique experiences — experiences that we live, and that make us feel a certain way.
We all may go through similar circumstances, yet there are so many nuances to those familiar circumstances, that it would be unrealistic to expect to feel the same way that someone else did (does).
We try to fit our feelings into labels that have made sense to others;
Into labels that we think we should be making sense of;
And into labels that sound justified to our senses;
But what about the feelings that we need to feel?
What about the feelings that we need to process?
What about the feelings that we need to allow?
Our feelings need to be let to run their own course, and it is only by letting them pass through us that we can free ourselves from them — not by resisting them in the first place;
Because when we decide to not let them through us — we are choosing to keep them in our depths, instead of allowing them to move through our surface, and out.
The truth is, there is no right or wrong way to feel anything;
You owe yourself to feel in your capacity, however you want to feel it, whenever, and whatever;
What you do not owe to yourself is — trying to adjust how you think you should be feeling.
You are the only one responsible for understanding your experiences, and for that you must feel what you need to feel.
When it comes to experiencing our emotions in full, it holds true for the pleasant and the unpleasant ones.
It might be convenient to fit our feelings into boxes that make us feel safe;
But isn’t it us that we end up hiding ourselves from?
Is that what we really owe ourselves?
Your feelings are your truth — and you owe nothing but the truth to yourself.
When we shower this compassion on ourselves, it is then that we become capable of extending this compassion towards others;
Others who too, like us, owe it to themselves to feel their truth — not what our truth feels like to us.
We need to come to terms with understanding that we don’t owe it to ourselves to feel something (anything) the right or wrong way — but we truly owe it to ourselves to simply feel — feel the truth that it is.
