Why You Need to Clearly Communicate Your Wants
Speak, even when outcomes are likely to disappoint.
We are our own keys to the doors we want to open.
The only way to get closer to what we want for ourselves, is by actually moving closer to it — or, farther from what we don’t.
Knowing what we want isn’t enough — it really comes down to what we are doing about it.
Are we making it known?
Are we doing something to achieve it?
Are we walking away from all that we don’t want?
We are fated to be stuck with things and situations that make us feel lukewarm, if we don’t actively seek the warmth of what we want instead.
Sometimes, it could be our worse fears convincing us that lukewarm is at least better than cold;
Or our sense of familiarity with what we’ve known for long enough to be wary of anything outside of it.
But if we don’t ask for what we want, we rob ourselves of all that we stand a chance at — we rob ourselves of the abundance of chances that we can explore.
Two things can happen when we state our wants (in any situation):
- It may be denied — In which case, we will know for sure if that if that’s a trade-off we’re willing to settle for. And if we are, that means we get to know something about ourselves we didn’t know until then. Because sometimes, we think we want something, but when we actually work to get it – we may realize that it’s probably something we can even do without (and happily so).
- It may be granted – In which case, bingo! There’s nothing that equates that joy, right?
But either of the two situations can only play out when we actually make the moves to seek it.
Nobody owes us anything until we decide to make it known to them – no matter how evident our actions and efforts are.
Of course, sometimes (and quite often so), things play out exactly how we want them to, but it is in situations when they clearly don’t, and we may settle to think that there is no other way – but there always is; we just have to ask for it.
We need to feel okay with speaking up even when outcomes are likely to disappoint;
In fact, especially when they stand to feel unsettling – because that’s the only way to get closer to what we seek, and it is only on us to make that happen.
We know when we know, but it doesn’t help anyone (and especially us!) to sit on that awareness, without doing anything to take it to the next level.
We need to clearly communicate our wants, because we don’t owe ourselves anything less, and we will never know if we don’t try.
